Happy Birthday, Rylan!

Happy 4th Birthday to Rylan today!

Crazy to think that this kid has been in our lives for four years already. He is a hilarious, constant joy... even if he is testing boundaries. We celebrated his day today with friends and my parents. His request was a monkey birthday so he got a monkey party complete with bananas hanging from the ceiling as he requested. Not real bananas, just fake bananas... much lighter and less messy!

It's been a very busy weekend so I'm going to keep it short and try to get some rest before long. Karleigh has her first field trip tomorrow that I'll be helping with and Rylan has his classroom party that Jim will attend.

Rylan just a few days old. !

On his first birthday.

Rylan's 2nd birthday. And his 3rd birthday.

Weeks Worth

So, I was just sitting at the table, munching on some corn on the cob... no, not for any particular meal but thanks for asking, and I was thinking "man, I haven't been keeping up with my blog very well." I'm not quite sure why that is. It could be that I kind of feel like I'm in this little limbo land somewhere between deadbabyland and rainbowbabyland. Deadbabymommas don't always want to hear about pregnancy or kids and rainbowbabymommas don't always want to be reminded of the past. But there are a few of us, stuck somewhere in the middle and that could be part of the reason that my blogging has slowed. Either that or I feel like I've said just about all there is to say on some subjects. I don't know. At any rate, it's allowed for the lazy blogger in me to shine!

The kids are both still loving school and doing really well which is nice. It's wonderful to not have to worry about school "issues" along with everything else. Rylan's more than aware that his birthday is rapidly approaching. Jim and I managed to get nearly all of his birthday shopping, cake pan, decorations, gifts, paper stuff, etc. on Wednesday while he had the day off and the kids were in school. We accomplished quite a bit in 3 hours! His party will be nice and laid back this year which I'm really looking forward to. I'm just trying to figure out exactly when I'm supposed to squeeze in baking and decorating his birthday cake. They don't have school on Friday so I don't have that 4 hours of "free" time and Karleigh has Daisy Scouts until 7:30, Saturday is his little buddy's birthday party and my parents coming to visit and then Sunday is his party. Maybe grandma will be able to keep the kids distracted in the evening while I hang out in the kitchen... we'll see! I have a brilliant friend who bakes and decorates her cakes ahead of time and then freezes them.

She's much smarter than I am.

I also managed to get the kids to finally decide what they wanted to be for Halloween. They had originally wanted to be Little Red Riding Hood and The Big Bad Wolf. Great idea, however, I did not feel motivated to sew a Rylan-sized wolf costume. I know I could... I just didn't want to. So, we looked at some more ideas and Rylan said he wanted to be a scary spider and Karleigh suggested Little Miss Muffet so we started looking. This time I knew his costume would be easy to find, it was hers I was worried about. However, it didn't take too much time and I got these two ordered:

Rumor has it they're on their way. Karleigh's really is and Rylan's, which comes from a fairly well known store, still hasn't shipped. I'm not too worried though, there's still loads of time.

Tuesday I went in and had my nurse appointment finally since I'm a fan of doing things backwards I suppose. It was pretty quick even though there were additions. When I got home they called to tell me that I was free to call the Maternal Fetal Medicine office, since our insurance had approved the NT Scan. I called them and the gal actually had my file up on her computer when she answered the phone. I'll be going for that on the afternoon of the 14th. Luckily, I was able to get a time, on Jim's day off, where the kids will be in school and we'll both be able to go to the appointment and get home before the buses do.

No, the kids do not know about this pregnancy.

They also did not know about my pregnancy with Collin. They did know about Eli for a good 10 weeks or so but since "un-telling" is hard on us and them, we chose to keep it from them as long as possible this time. I know that them not knowing won't change the outcome, obviously. But, for now, it's just easier this way. I don't know when we'll tell them but they're not stupid and I'm not skinny! It would be nice to make it to 18-20 weeks at least, but I'm not sure that's going to be possible.

We were lying in bed the other night (don't worry, it's safe to read!) and Jim changed the channel to Animal Planet. It was one of those surreal moments where I instantly knew I was exactly the same gestation, listening to the same show, even at the same time of night as I had been in December when I was still pregnant with Collin, lying in bed with Rylan at Jim's aunt and uncle's house after our crazy long drive to Missoula. It's strange how something as silly as watching "Yellowstone: Battle for Life" can bring back memories.

But, it can.

That next morning I got up and decided that I wasn't going to continue living, waiting for this baby to die but that I was going to go ahead an plan for the future. The worst thing that could happen is I lose this baby anyway but at least I will have enjoyed the time I had instead of waiting for some imaginary "safe zone" to start planning and looking at things. I'm even seriously thinking of cloth diapering at least part-time. These guys can be used with a disposable insert if you want but I'm planning on using them with a cloth insert. Even if I just replace 3 disposables a day with this cloth system, over two years I can save us several hundred dollars... and that motivates Jim! Plus, how cute is that little bum compared to Winnie the Pooh, no offense old bear.

Phew! There's a ton more but I get all wonky and rambly trying to remember everything so it is what it is right now. I do have a sense of peace about this pregnancy, not necessarily the gut feeling that I'll be bringing a baby home in the spring but a sense of peace that I can go ahead and do what I'm going to do and prepare because it's totally out of my control anyway. ...I've known that all along, it's just nice for the head and the heart to match up for a while.

Half-Way to Half-Way There

Still plugging along here! Even with the fear of jinxing myself, I've started to feel a bit better. I'm still tired but the extreme dizziness seems to have subsided for the most part. I still feel a bit disconnected from my body, both literally and figuratively, but it's getting better which is nice since I'd been feeling it since just after 5 weeks. It started on the way home from my parents house a month or so ago and really hadn't let up much. Now I've moved into the can't. stop. eating. phase that I don't remember so much with Rylan but sure do with Karleigh. Of course I also gained twice as much weight with her so I'll just have to make sure that's it's healthy things with which I constantly stuff my face!

I had my first "real" OB appointment yesterday. You know, the 'exciting' pee in a cup, cringe at your weight, blood pressure check, chat with the nurse, see the doc, ask any questions, schedule your next appointment... which was good because I had to pee, I've weighed more not pregnant, 120/70 isn't bad, I like Dr. C's nurse, I also like Dr. C, he answered my couple of questions, he had me schedule again for in two weeks to keep my anxiety in check.

The more detailed version... before he came in I head the familiar thump, jiggle, bonk of the bedside ultrasound machine. I have a love/hate relationship with that machine. I love seeing my baby on the screen "in real life" but I hate seeing my dead baby on the screen. Every time he turns it on I know that it can go either way. Yesterday it went the way I love. It was hard to see the heartbeat at first because baby was moving around so much. The internal struggle that followed was quite amusing in hindsight... "oh no, I don't see the heartbeat... because the baby is moving too much... is it even alive?... it needs to stop moving so I can see the heartbeat." Yes, I'm just that crazy.

Doing this again is really, really hard.

I think it's more difficult this time around because after we lost Eli you just kind of feel like, ok, we got through that and of course we'll have a healthy baby this time around because that's what's fair. Well, life isn't fair. So this time around I don't have that mental safety net that I had with Collin. I know it can happen. I know it can happen more than once and I know that it can happen at any time and while it's one thing to "know" it, I think it's another thing to live it.

Back to the upside though, I got to see arms, legs, fingers and toes, eyes, the jaw bone and everything else looking just as it should right now. Oh, and a beating heart.

First Day of School Re-do!

OK, I guess not really a "re-do" but today was Rylan's first day of preschool. He attends preschool just across the hall from Karleigh's Kindergarten classroom. The bus picks him up and brings him home and if today is any indication he's going to have a great time! It was funny, after lunch he got all dressed so I could take pictures. Obviously, he was paying attention last week!

Pics with Dad and Mom! (apparently I'm going to gain weight in my face this time... geesh!)

Karleigh and Rylan's buses are supposed to arrive at just about the same time. Rylan's driver has to pull into the driveway and can't pick him up along the road like Karleigh's bus. It became clear, why, when she arrived. Miss Judy has to get up and strap the kids in with their integrated car seats with 5-point harness and extra safety belt... YAY! Rylan loved that she let him do the chest clip himself (and then double checked it which made mom happy).

Obviously he had a great day as he was all smiles getting off of the bus this afternoon too! We asked him how it went...

"Great!"

He had recess, apples and crackers for snack, needed help with his pants button, met new friends and when we asked him what his favorite part of the day was...

"Going to school!"

His teacher is really nice, she sends home a notebook for notes which facilitate a running dialog about the day, issues, questions, etc. Very handy! Today: "Rylan had a great first day! He enjoyed playing with play dough, dinosaurs and the kitchen area. It was difficult for him to stay longer than 5 minutes at any given area. I'm sure this will increase as he becomes familiar with the room." I predicted that's what would happen... he was allowed free-for-all play time during Karleigh's Kindy intro classes last spring. We talked to him about it and how we would love it if he would listen to Teacher T and stay at each activity until it's time to move on. His response was so typical of my kid "I know, I know. Today I was just get up and move, get up and move, get up and move! I'll try harder tomorrow, OK?" OK big boy!

School is Cool

I guess I never posted about Karleigh's first day of school. It was a fairly uneventful day in the grand scheme of things and she loved it! Her big worry was her outfit since she knew it would be too hot for what she originally had planned, this outfit but a sweater vest and knee socks. I think she did a pretty good job. It ended up being 95 degrees on her first day!

She got to school no problem, and the Kindy kids on our route ride the mini-bus to save gas since there's only about 15 kiddos and the bus holds 30. It's nice that she gets a seat belt on the way into town. She sat at the orange table with one other girl and two boys, she had recess where she played tether ball will her friends from pre-school, they had snack time, they had song time and story circle where they read a story about the first day of school. She told us all about the cover and the title page... incidentally, she was quite annoyed that they went over that again on Monday ;) She colored a bus picture and then they pasted together a school bus poem. She loves that the 4th graders come downstairs and partner up with the kindergarten kids on the way out to the buses at the end of the day.

Speaking of buses at the end of the day... her first trip home... the bell rings at 3:10, she got home at 5 minutes to 5! Apparently the bus that she was supposed to take home had some sort of issue so the driver had to switch buses at some point. He also has the middle school route out here so as soon as he completed that one, he had to go get the little kids. It wasn't a big deal to me or Karleigh but she sure had to go potty by the time she got off the bus! I figure if that's the biggest drama... no problem!


She was thrilled to go back Monday and today and she seems to be having a great time. The school has curriculum night on Thursday so it will be nice to see what the teachers have planned for the year. Kids are, however, discouraged from attending. Luckily, Rylan's teacher has her session from 6:00 - 6:45 and Karleigh's teacher has her session from 6:45 - 7:30 so I won't have to miss either one and Jim will just watch the kiddos.

Speaking of Rylan, he starts on Monday and he can't wait! They both have next Friday off, I have a doctor's appointment, Jim has to work late and Karleigh has her first official Daisy Scouts meeting. It was kind of nice to have this summer to just hang out especially after a few years of go, go, go to play dates and activities and such. But... it's game on again!

T Minus 15 Hours

While tucking Karleigh into bed tonight she said "I'm just going to go to sleep. The sooner I go to sleep, the sooner I will be a Kindergartner!"
Yup, she will be.
She and I went to her orientation this afternoon where we went over all the nitty gritty like snack, busing, recess... all the important things! It was nice to see her so calm and comfortable in the classroom today. I have no doubt that she'll have a good time and that it'll seem to be over far to quick for her.

Since I'm not going to school with her tomorrow (and they did encourage the parents to just make it a normal day) I decided to take my camera with me today and just snapped 2 pics at the end of orientation.

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