Normal

"Normal" is so nice.
"Normal" is all I asked for.

While in the shower this morning I got to thinking "huh, it's been 8 days since my 1st trimester screening. I wonder how my blood numbers were?" Then I proceeded to have a discussion in my head about the fact that the maternal fetal medicine office said that they would call if the results were abnormal and would just mail me a card if... when!... they returned normal. I got out of the shower, dressed and the phone rang.

Unknown Name
Unknown Number

That is code for my doc's office.

I answered the phone and it was V, Dr.C's nurse. She said "Hey! We got your results back. They're totally normal! I just had to call and let you know instead of making you wait!"

"Normal" is what I got!

I didn't ask her the ratios because knowing that it was normal is good enough for me. It's really a relief. Rylan's AFP which is just a blood draw but also a screening test returned positive and that was really stressful. I also passed my first trimester screen with Collin but I still feel good today. He didn't live long enough for me to receive my official results. They called while my mom was here and I was at the hospital prepping for surgery. This baby is still alive and I'm starting to feel little movements. So far everything is normal.

I am very thankful for normal.

Another Milestone

I've got to say, I've pretty much been a ball of nerves the last few days. Rylan's birthday was a great distraction while leading up to this afternoon's NT Scan. I did not have the scan done with Eli but we did with Collin... and his heart stopped the next day. My scan with him was at 12 weeks 3 days. Today I was 12 weeks 4 days. I just wanted to get these next few days done and over with. I'm trying not to wish my life away but it's hard to relive certain things. Luckily, we were able to go back the the Maternal Fetal Medicine (MFM) office where we had our last scan done so they had my whole history and the ultrasound tech was great about reading my entire file prior to seeing us.

I found it really comforting to have so many things different this time around. We were in a different room. Different tech - this one came over from 7 years at the OHSU MFM office. She was great and understanding and really warm. This baby was moving all over the place - which Collin did not do (and in hindsight bugged me). We saw this baby swallowing. A stomach. A full bladder. The diaphragm. Fingers and toes. Eyes and nose. Brain. A perfect three vessle cord. A heart beat of 167 beats per minute. And the whole reason we were there the Nuchal Translucency measurements averaged out at 1.9 or so. At this stage of the game anything below 3.2 is considered "normal" and the lower, the better.

The best thing was this baby is measuring a bit ahead at 13 weeks 1 day... in essence, catapulting us right past some of the days that would have carried a lot of nervous energy. That is not saying that I'm thinking everything is 100%, for sure, going to be ok but it feels a bit better to have such a great appointment behind us.

We also got a number of pictures but these were the "best", in my opinion.

This one is the profile, hand up near face, black spot near the middle of the baby is the stomach, the black spot closer to the leg is the bladder.

Look! It's a brontosaurus!!! Just kidding, it's a hand and an arm but our baby is already looking to be quite talented in the shadow puppet skills department. :)

Perfect little feet and legs. The MFM showed us how we could easily see that there isn't even a clubbed foot.

And in honor of Halloween approaching, the obligatory, scary alien-skeleton shot but that's exactly what he/she is supposed to look like right now.

I also had an appointment last week with my OB that went great. Turns out, I'm the first and only patient to whom he has prescribed Femara. But so far so good!

While I'm really happy with the outcome of today's appointment. I also don't want to forget that tomorrow is October 15th which is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. So, while I'm celebrating a great appointment and continuing to be cautiously optimistic for this spring, tomorrow is a day set aside for us all to remember those babies who didn't get the chance to live the full lives that we expected.

Happy Birthday, Rylan!

Happy 4th Birthday to Rylan today!

Crazy to think that this kid has been in our lives for four years already. He is a hilarious, constant joy... even if he is testing boundaries. We celebrated his day today with friends and my parents. His request was a monkey birthday so he got a monkey party complete with bananas hanging from the ceiling as he requested. Not real bananas, just fake bananas... much lighter and less messy!

It's been a very busy weekend so I'm going to keep it short and try to get some rest before long. Karleigh has her first field trip tomorrow that I'll be helping with and Rylan has his classroom party that Jim will attend.

Rylan just a few days old. !

On his first birthday.

Rylan's 2nd birthday. And his 3rd birthday.

Weeks Worth

So, I was just sitting at the table, munching on some corn on the cob... no, not for any particular meal but thanks for asking, and I was thinking "man, I haven't been keeping up with my blog very well." I'm not quite sure why that is. It could be that I kind of feel like I'm in this little limbo land somewhere between deadbabyland and rainbowbabyland. Deadbabymommas don't always want to hear about pregnancy or kids and rainbowbabymommas don't always want to be reminded of the past. But there are a few of us, stuck somewhere in the middle and that could be part of the reason that my blogging has slowed. Either that or I feel like I've said just about all there is to say on some subjects. I don't know. At any rate, it's allowed for the lazy blogger in me to shine!

The kids are both still loving school and doing really well which is nice. It's wonderful to not have to worry about school "issues" along with everything else. Rylan's more than aware that his birthday is rapidly approaching. Jim and I managed to get nearly all of his birthday shopping, cake pan, decorations, gifts, paper stuff, etc. on Wednesday while he had the day off and the kids were in school. We accomplished quite a bit in 3 hours! His party will be nice and laid back this year which I'm really looking forward to. I'm just trying to figure out exactly when I'm supposed to squeeze in baking and decorating his birthday cake. They don't have school on Friday so I don't have that 4 hours of "free" time and Karleigh has Daisy Scouts until 7:30, Saturday is his little buddy's birthday party and my parents coming to visit and then Sunday is his party. Maybe grandma will be able to keep the kids distracted in the evening while I hang out in the kitchen... we'll see! I have a brilliant friend who bakes and decorates her cakes ahead of time and then freezes them.

She's much smarter than I am.

I also managed to get the kids to finally decide what they wanted to be for Halloween. They had originally wanted to be Little Red Riding Hood and The Big Bad Wolf. Great idea, however, I did not feel motivated to sew a Rylan-sized wolf costume. I know I could... I just didn't want to. So, we looked at some more ideas and Rylan said he wanted to be a scary spider and Karleigh suggested Little Miss Muffet so we started looking. This time I knew his costume would be easy to find, it was hers I was worried about. However, it didn't take too much time and I got these two ordered:

Rumor has it they're on their way. Karleigh's really is and Rylan's, which comes from a fairly well known store, still hasn't shipped. I'm not too worried though, there's still loads of time.

Tuesday I went in and had my nurse appointment finally since I'm a fan of doing things backwards I suppose. It was pretty quick even though there were additions. When I got home they called to tell me that I was free to call the Maternal Fetal Medicine office, since our insurance had approved the NT Scan. I called them and the gal actually had my file up on her computer when she answered the phone. I'll be going for that on the afternoon of the 14th. Luckily, I was able to get a time, on Jim's day off, where the kids will be in school and we'll both be able to go to the appointment and get home before the buses do.

No, the kids do not know about this pregnancy.

They also did not know about my pregnancy with Collin. They did know about Eli for a good 10 weeks or so but since "un-telling" is hard on us and them, we chose to keep it from them as long as possible this time. I know that them not knowing won't change the outcome, obviously. But, for now, it's just easier this way. I don't know when we'll tell them but they're not stupid and I'm not skinny! It would be nice to make it to 18-20 weeks at least, but I'm not sure that's going to be possible.

We were lying in bed the other night (don't worry, it's safe to read!) and Jim changed the channel to Animal Planet. It was one of those surreal moments where I instantly knew I was exactly the same gestation, listening to the same show, even at the same time of night as I had been in December when I was still pregnant with Collin, lying in bed with Rylan at Jim's aunt and uncle's house after our crazy long drive to Missoula. It's strange how something as silly as watching "Yellowstone: Battle for Life" can bring back memories.

But, it can.

That next morning I got up and decided that I wasn't going to continue living, waiting for this baby to die but that I was going to go ahead an plan for the future. The worst thing that could happen is I lose this baby anyway but at least I will have enjoyed the time I had instead of waiting for some imaginary "safe zone" to start planning and looking at things. I'm even seriously thinking of cloth diapering at least part-time. These guys can be used with a disposable insert if you want but I'm planning on using them with a cloth insert. Even if I just replace 3 disposables a day with this cloth system, over two years I can save us several hundred dollars... and that motivates Jim! Plus, how cute is that little bum compared to Winnie the Pooh, no offense old bear.

Phew! There's a ton more but I get all wonky and rambly trying to remember everything so it is what it is right now. I do have a sense of peace about this pregnancy, not necessarily the gut feeling that I'll be bringing a baby home in the spring but a sense of peace that I can go ahead and do what I'm going to do and prepare because it's totally out of my control anyway. ...I've known that all along, it's just nice for the head and the heart to match up for a while.